Growing up with African parents is a full drama series.
Sometimes itâs love, sometimes itâs chaos â but either way, itâs real.
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Hereâs what Iâve noticed:
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They love deeply, but show it differently
Theyâll insult you, call you âuseless,â then sneak fried plantain into your plate 2 hours later. They think rest = laziness
You say âIâm tiredâ and they say âTired of what? Are you the one feeding this house?â They forgive fast, but never forget
Youâll break a plate in 2019 and hear about it in 2025 đ Prayer is the solution to everything
You say âI have headache.â They say âHave you prayed?â
Then shout Psalm 91 over your head. They can shout AND be silent at the same time
The day mummy is quiet? Your peace is over. You better clean something before she remembers. They want the best for you, even if they donât say it kindly
Beneath the shouting is love. Beneath the âGo and read your bookâ is fear of poverty. Theyâll never say âIâm sorryâ directly â but theyâll ask if youâve eaten. Thatâs the apology.Â
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Love them. Laugh at them. Learn from them.
They shaped us. They scarred us. But they still love us.
Titi Konnect
125 days agoÂ
Growing up with African parents is a full drama series.
Sometimes itâs love, sometimes itâs chaos â but either way, itâs real.
Â
Hereâs what Iâve noticed:
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They love deeply, but show it differently
Theyâll insult you, call you âuseless,â then sneak fried plantain into your plate 2 hours later. They think rest = laziness
You say âIâm tiredâ and they say âTired of what? Are you the one feeding this house?â They forgive fast, but never forget
Youâll break a plate in 2019 and hear about it in 2025 đ Prayer is the solution to everything
You say âI have headache.â They say âHave you prayed?â
Then shout Psalm 91 over your head. They can shout AND be silent at the same time
The day mummy is quiet? Your peace is over. You better clean something before she remembers. They want the best for you, even if they donât say it kindly
Beneath the shouting is love. Beneath the âGo and read your bookâ is fear of poverty. Theyâll never say âIâm sorryâ directly â but theyâll ask if youâve eaten. Thatâs the apology.Â
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Love them. Laugh at them. Learn from them.
They shaped us. They scarred us. But they still love us.
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