They said my friends and I have d!vo0rced and now we are living a “free l!fe” as we want. People talk as if we should be ashaamed. Funny enough, before marriage, nobody cared what we did with our l!ves. Life was private then. But the moment you marrry, your l!fe becomes a public movie where everyone feels they should talk, jûdge, and direct your script, I can’t even remember telling the public I was dvorrced but news was everywhere.
I used to be like them too. I never considered those who left their marrriages to be serious people. I thought they were weak, maybe even fancy or reb3llious. But that was before I wore the shoes myself. That was before I understood that peace of mind is not something you beg for, and sometimes you have to choose yourself.
Uche, Myself and our other friend didn’t plan to be dvorrced women. Nobody goes into marriage hoping to faiil. But when the reality inside is not what you showed outside, when love turns to survival, you begin to ask yourself: is this what li!fe should be?
Now they say we’re living a “free life” like it’s a cr!me. Please, what is wrong with being free and happy? Should we have stayed tr∆pped just to make people clap for us? I chose my peace. We all did. And that’s not a sin.
Before you jûdge, wear the shoes. Until then, be careful how you label other people’s sûrvival stories.”
Mc King
25 days agoThey said my friends and I have d!vo0rced and now we are living a “free l!fe” as we want. People talk as if we should be ashaamed. Funny enough, before marriage, nobody cared what we did with our l!ves. Life was private then. But the moment you marrry, your l!fe becomes a public movie where everyone feels they should talk, jûdge, and direct your script, I can’t even remember telling the public I was dvorrced but news was everywhere.
I used to be like them too. I never considered those who left their marrriages to be serious people. I thought they were weak, maybe even fancy or reb3llious. But that was before I wore the shoes myself. That was before I understood that peace of mind is not something you beg for, and sometimes you have to choose yourself.
Uche, Myself and our other friend didn’t plan to be dvorrced women. Nobody goes into marriage hoping to faiil. But when the reality inside is not what you showed outside, when love turns to survival, you begin to ask yourself: is this what li!fe should be?
Now they say we’re living a “free life” like it’s a cr!me. Please, what is wrong with being free and happy? Should we have stayed tr∆pped just to make people clap for us? I chose my peace. We all did. And that’s not a sin.
Before you jûdge, wear the shoes. Until then, be careful how you label other people’s sûrvival stories.”
—CHIOMA AKOPTHA