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How I Realised He Was Just Using Me (Enotionally And Financially)
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41 days agoI used to think he cared. He checked in sometimes, called me “baby,” and even told me he was proud of me. But everything changed once I looked deeper.
Here’s how I figured out I was just being used not loved:
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1. He Only Called When He Needed Something
Airtime, transport fare, data, or just someone to pour his problems on — that’s when he remembered I existed.
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2. I Was Always Giving — He Was Always Taking
Whether it was money, attention, or emotional support, I was the one pouring. He rarely gave anything back.
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3. My Problems Were Never a Priority
When I needed someone to talk to, he’d go “I’ll call you back” and disappear for hours — sometimes days.
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4. He Avoided Labels
We were “vibing,” “talking,” “seeing how it goes” — but never “in a relationship.” Yet I was acting like a wife.
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5. Guilt Was His Weapon
The moment I said “no” or asked for respect, he’d guilt-trip me: “After all I’ve shared with you?” or “So you’re now counting?”
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6. My Spirit Was Tired
It’s not the money I missed — it was how used I felt. Like my time and love didn’t matter.
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7. Leaving Was Hard, But Necessary
I had to choose myself. No one deserves to be emotionally or financially drained in the name of “love.”
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Sis, if you’re in this situation, choose peace. Real love doesn’t use you — it values you.
Have you been there before? Let’s talk.👇💔