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Sashasmart
48 days agoGboom!!!
That was the sound of my mother’s pot crashing to the ground the day I said,
“I’m getting married.”
She didn’t yell.
She didn’t question.
She just stared—and in her silence, I heard everything.
But I didn’t care.
To me, marriage was the exit I had been praying for.
No more struggling to survive.
No more hunger.
No more responsibilities I never signed up for as the first daughter.
He said he loved me—and that was enough.
So I said yes.
I said, “I do.”
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But what I didn’t know was that I was walking into a new kind of fire—
One where love alone wouldn’t be enough.
One where my brokenness, my lack of preparation, and my desperation would cost me peace.
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Dear Young Girl,
Marriage won’t fix the pain you haven’t healed from.
It won’t complete what you haven’t started building.
And it’s not a replacement for purpose.
Before you say “I do,”
Ask yourself:
Am I saying “yes” to him—or just “no” to struggle?
Do I know who I am without a last name attached?
Have I equipped myself emotionally, mentally, spiritually, financially?
Marriage is not a destination.
It’s a partnership. A journey. A mirror that reflects everything you are—and everything you’re not yet ready to face.
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If I could go back, I would do it differently.
I would build before I become.
I would find healing before holding hands.
I would grow into the woman I want to be—so that marriage would be a continuation, not a correction.
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So, to the girl reading this:
Don’t rush.
Don’t run.
Don’t use marriage as a hiding place from the hard things.
Your life is not on pause until you wear a ring.
Say “I do”—
To growth.
To healing.
To building yourself.
Before you say it to anyone else.
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